The Journey to loving "YOU"

So much happens to a human from birth. 

The experiences of life teach us differently, based on our environment and our attitudes mostly.

I am no expert in human behavior, but a self acclaimed teacher of self love. Besides personal experiences and observing those around me, I tend to draw a lot of inspiration from imagination. From the collective intelligence in the Morphogenetic field. 

The journey to loving me has been very difficult. I see similar trends in those close to me. What we imagine is automatic, is actually a very hard to do. 

So, what is love? What is self love? 

Love of self means having regard for your own well being, happiness and advantage. It means that you care and unconditionally treat yourself with respect, kindness, appreciation and have affinity towards your own self. It means choosing you, first, before choosing any other thing.

However, we are somehow mostly wired/schooled to only see good in others and criticize everything in ourself. Instead of giving advantage to ourself, we imagine others deserve the advantage. We not only have negative inner conversations on ourself, but we also have little self appreciation.

So how do we break these norms and start genuinely and unconditionally loving ourselves? 

I first embarked on the conscious journey of loving me when I was in a difficult place. I was in college, failing in my studies, my parents were broke, had difficulties making 3 meals, was fighting with my dad....I got suicidal. "Why me?" I wondered so often. My friends took me for counselling at the deans office, its here that I started knowing me!

20 years later, I have had many coaching sessions, a lot of talk therapy, adult difficulties and more. Its only now in my early 40's that I learnt there is no greater love, than unconditional self love. 

The journey is facilitated by;

•  self acceptance:  Accepting where you are, where you have been and accepting that you are responsible for where you go from here
• Self discovery and self choice: who are you? Are you your body? Are you your upbringing background? Are you your job? Do you choose you? Do you prefer to be you and to be with you?
• Inner voice conditioning: How do I talk to myself? How do I talk about myself to others?
• Self care and Trigger management: What do I love, to do, to be? How often am I spending time with and for me? Do I know what triggers my stress or anger or happiness?
• Boundaries and conscious relationships: What are my relationships like? Can I say NO? Can I set clear and respected boundaries? Can I sustain life long friendship, family or business relationships that thrive?

We will discuss these areas, each on its own in the articles to follow

It has taken me over 20 years, actively investing in the journey, and still am not there yet. Life is marathon, this journey is not a sprint. A step a day and over time, we shall all discover the beauty of unconditional self love.

All the best in choosing you, your path and in love of self. Adios for now